How long should sex last? Five minutes is pretty standard for most men, but that can be frustrating for women, since they need around 20 minutes to orgasm with a partner. Fortunately, there are plenty of things you can do to make it last longer.
One of the easiest ways to delay your orgasm is to change up your sex positions. Don’t stick to just one position from beginning to end, try alternating.
So what positions will help make sex last longer?
When it comes to bedding your girl, most guys nail it fast and hard, just the way she likes it.
The problem is, that isn’t the way she loves it. Learn the slow groove, and you may discover what women have known for years — slow sex is so much better.
Start with 2 minutes of Spoons. Wrap your arms around her and get as close as you can. Most of the action will be more like rocking and grinding than thrusting, but she can match your movements.
This classic face-to-face position is probably familiar. The shallow penetration doesn’t allow for much thrusting, but it’s very close and intimate.
Like a fine wine, great sex takes time. Slow and steady sex instead of fast and pounding.
When you’re hitting it from behind, focus on the nerve endings in her entrance of her vagina instead of seeing how deep you can get. Try using a figure 8 motion instead of the old in and out.
It might also help to change your masturbation technique.
Delaying your orgasm, or edging while masturbating can be one of the most effective ways to train yourself to last longer during sex. According to Thomas J. Walsh, M.D., a urologist at the University of Washington, it’s one of the most common techniques to avoid coming too soon.
Basically, you bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm and stop until you have your excitement under control.
Practicing this technique can help you teach your brain and body to better control your orgasm response and make sex last longer, says sex therapist Emily Morse, Ph.D. Just be sure to use a lot of lotion or lube while you practice edging to avoid chafing.