She was tight at first. Nervous. Her body guarded, her pussy barely letting me in. I could feel the tension in her thighs, the way she held her breath every time I tried to go deeper. Most guys would have pushed harder, or given up. I didn’t. I took my time. I kissed her slow and deep, the kind of kiss that makes a woman forget she’s supposed to be nervous. I worshipped her breasts until her nipples were hard and her breathing changed. I went down on her like I had all night, edging her with my tongue until she was soaking the sheets and begging me with her eyes.
Only then — when her body had surrendered, when her pussy was swollen and dripping and her hips were lifting off the bed — did I slide inside her. And this time, she opened. Not just a little. Completely. She took every inch like she was made for it. Her eyes rolled back. A low, broken moan escaped her throat. And when she came, it wasn’t quiet. It was the kind of orgasm that makes a woman shake like she’s being exorcised. Wet. Intense. Unforgettable.
That’s what happens when you give her body what it actually needs. Most men never learn this. They rush. They miss the moment. But when you do it right, everything changes.
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Why Most Women Stay Tight (And How to Change That)
A woman’s body has a natural defense. When she’s not fully aroused, her vaginal walls stay tighter, her pelvic floor stays tense, and her cervix sits lower. Deep penetration feels uncomfortable — sometimes even painful. But once she’s truly opened up, everything transforms. Her pussy lengthens, her cervix lifts, her body becomes soft, wet, and receptive. She can take you deeper than you thought possible, and the pleasure becomes something else entirely.
The secret isn’t more lube or more force. It’s patience. And a very specific sequence.
The 4-Step Process to Make Her Body Fully Open Up
Step 1: Warm Her Up Slowly (Deep Kissing & Full-Body Touch)
Don’t go straight for her pussy. Spend real time kissing her — deep, slow, passionate kissing. Kiss her neck, her ears, her collarbone. Run your hands over her whole body. Pay attention to her breasts, her inner thighs, her lower back. The goal is to get her blood flowing everywhere, not just between her legs. This is the foundation. The longer you take here, the easier the rest becomes.
I’ve had women tell me that the way I kissed them made them wet before I even touched their pussy. That’s the level you want.
Step 2: Mad Oral — Edge Her Until She’s Dripping
Now go down on her. Not a quick lick — proper, focused, edging oral. Use your tongue on her clit in slow circles. Bring her right to the edge, then pull back. Kiss her thighs. Go back in. Tell her, “Don’t cum yet, baby. I want you to wait for me.”
This step is critical. The more you edge her, the more her body physically opens. Her pussy gets wetter, fuller, and more receptive. Her G-spot swells. Her pelvic floor relaxes. This is the real “opening up” phase. Toys can help a lot here too — a vibrator on her clit while you use your mouth is incredibly effective.
Step 3: Digital G-Spot Stimulation (Build the Pressure)
Once she’s soaked and practically begging, slide two or three fingers inside her, palm up. Curve them toward her belly button. Use firm but gentle pressure — no rough fingerbanging. Think soft, rhythmic tapping, like you’re tapping an egg yolk with your fingers. For many women, pressure on either side of the G-spot feels better than direct pressure.
While you’re doing this, keep touching other parts of her body — nipples, thighs, anywhere she likes. The combination of sensations is what pushes her over the edge. Keep her right on the brink. Don’t let her cum yet.
Step 4: Shallow Penetration + Controlled Thrusting
Now she’s fully open and ready. Give her just the tip — shallow penetration only. Watch her reaction. She will usually lose her mind at this point. The combination of being fully opened up and getting just the head of your cock exactly where she needs it is incredibly intense.
From here you can slowly go deeper, but keep the strokes controlled and grinding rather than fast thrusting. Stay in tune with her body. If she starts to cum, don’t stop or change rhythm. Ride it with her.
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The Best Position Once She’s Fully Open: CAT (Coital Alignment Technique)
Once she’s opened up, there is one position that stands out above the rest: CAT — the Coital Alignment Technique. It’s basically the optimized, balls-deep version of missionary. You ride higher than normal so your pubic bone grinds directly against her clit while staying fully buried inside her. Instead of long thrusting strokes, you use short, grinding, rocking motions.
This gives her constant, perfect clitoral stimulation at the same time as deep penetration. Once she’s fully opened up, CAT often becomes the single most effective position for powerful, intense, wet orgasms. It combines everything she needs at that stage: maximum depth, constant clit pressure, eye contact, and the ability to stay connected and grind exactly where she needs it.
Many women who rarely cum from penetration alone can have very strong orgasms in CAT once their body is fully open and relaxed. It’s not just about depth — it’s about the grinding pressure that keeps her clit engaged the entire time.
Other excellent positions once she’s open include Crouching Tiger, Face Off, Corkscrew, Backshots, and standard Missionary with a pillow under her hips. But when she’s completely open and ready for deep, intense pleasure, CAT is usually the winner.
For a full list of the best positions specifically for squirting and deep pleasure, check out our dedicated guide: Best Positions to Make a Woman Squirt.
Final Thoughts
Making her body open up isn’t about being bigger or lasting longer. It’s about patience and understanding how her body actually works. When you take the time to do these steps right, everything changes. She becomes wetter, more open, more responsive, and capable of the kind of intense, wet, soul-shaking orgasms most women only dream about.
That’s the difference between average sex and the kind she craves and remembers.
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