Giving a good blowjob is not only an amazing experience for your partner, it can be totally empowering for you too. And like everything in sex, there’s no right or wrong way when it comes to giving head. However, there are a few tricks of the trade that we can teach you to set you on the path to blowjob excellence.

  • 1. Take the full tour

    Before you even begin sucking his penis, try exploring his body with your mouth first, gently kiss his stomach and thighs before finally letting your lips touch the tip of his penis. The build-up and suspense should really get him in the zone.

    Once you do get down to the sucking, try licking the whole length of his penis with your tongue. If you fancy it, making eye contact while you do this can be a real turn-on – very sexy!

  • 2. Don’t overthink it

    Instead of constantly worrying about whether you’re doing it right or not, try and relax. If you’re not relaxed then you probably won’t feel comfortable. As a result, your partner might not feel comfortable either.

    Ease yourself into it and be confident. He’s probably going to love the fact that you are down there at all. So just remember, you’re in control, so have fun and relax.

  • 3. Keep talking

    If you are uncertain about your technique or whether he is enjoying the blowjob you’re giving him, talking with your partner and getting feedback can be very helpful. Don’t be afraid to stop and ask what he likes and doesn’t like, what he is enjoying and what he’s not enjoying so much.

  • 4. Slow is sexy

    Start slow. It’s worth remembering that the best blowjobs aren’t over in a flash; don’t rush in, start off slowly. Yes, keeping a regular rhythm with your mouth can help build up to a mind-blowing orgasm, but there’s no need to endlessly bob your head up and down.

    Starting off slowly will not only give you time to acclimatise and find a workable rhythm, but it will also mean you can make the blowjob more sensual, make it last longer, and make the whole experience more memorable.

  • 5. Vary the depth

    Now we’re not saying dive in with a deep throat, but why not play around with depth. Try changing between shallow sucks (with just the tip of his penis between your lips), and deeper ones. You could start with all shallow, then move on to a mix of shallow and deep once you’ve built your confidence up.

  • 6. Use your hands

    Yes, it’s called a blowjob, and you’re supposed to use your mouth, but why not make use of your hands too? Sure, there’s something to be said about a hands-free blowjob, but why waste your versatile and dexterous digits during your sucking session?

    Try gently playing with his testicles, running your fingers up his inner thighs, or pinching his nipples (if that’s his thing).

    The thought of going deep can be pretty daunting. If taking it all in isn’t your thing, try holding the base of his penis with your hand and moving it up and down in time with your mouth. This can help give the sensation of going deep without making it uncomfortable for you.

  • 7. Don’t just focus on his penis

    Giving good head can mean using all parts of your mouth across many different erogenous zones.

  • We know that the head of the penis is one of the most sensitive areas, and so it’s likely you will be spending a fair bit of time there. There is no need to neglect his other pleasure points though. Why not try some gentle licking and sucking of his testicles and inner thighs?

  • 8. Make sure you enjoy it!

    If you’re not enjoying the experience, your partner will likely be able to tell, which no doubt will affect their enjoyment. So, communicate! Let him know how you’re feeling and ask him what he’s enjoying.

  • 9. Give yourself a break

    Don’t worry, pausing for a break doesn’t have to mean ruining the moment. Add a little excitement by coming up for a kiss, using your hands for a bit, or even try touching yourself – this is about both of you having a good time after all.

  • 10. Wetter is better

    Most important: make sure it is wet. Wet, slushy, sloppy blowjobs are the ONLY kind of blowjobs. Just like when he’s eating your pussy and driving you crazy with his mouth, it has to be wet to feel good. Use lots of spit, and lots more. Make it really wet with your mouth.

    Keep a little water by the bed and take a few sips to keep your mouth moist. Not only does it make it easier for you and ensure you get regular breaks, but the change in temperature can feel great on his penis and open him up to a world of new sensations.

When he’s coming, it’s best to just keep doing what you’re doing. That’s my best advice for that. Go ahead and swallow… Guys love that 😉

If you don’t want him to cum in your mouth, then jack it really hard, pump it with your fist, and aim his cock wherever you want the cum – tits, face, tummy or wherever. Guys like cumming on those places – but usually nothing as much as in your mouth.