Guys, we know you didn’t ask for this guide, but we also know you don’t know how to finger a girl properly, so we wrote it for you anyway. Because you need it.

Take our advice: How you use your fingers can make or break any sexual encounter, and if you do it right she will definitely be coming back for more.

1. First things first, make sure your nails are cut short and are soft around the edges. If they’re long and rough, then she’s going to push your hand away. Prepare those nails before you see her.

2. You should also make sure you wash your hands before touching her down there. You don’t want to end up giving her an infection instead of an orgasm.

3. Even if you want her to go straight for your crotch when she gives you a hand job, that’s not what she wants. Start by snuggling up close to her and kissing her on her lips, neck, and breasts. Get her as wet as you can before you even take her jeans off.

4. When you do take her jeans off, do it slowly to tease her. Then move your hands up and down her thighs, avoiding her pussy completely. Wait as long as you can to actually touch her between her legs. The teasing is the best part.

5. Before you stick your fingers inside of her, start by rubbing your hand against her clit. Try going back and fourth, and then try moving your fingers in minuscule circles. Pay attention to her reaction and do more of whatever makes her moan.

6. If she still needs extra lubrication, you know what to do. Take out the lube. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed at turning her on. Some women are just naturally dryer than others.

7. Don’t start by shoving as many fingers as you can fit up there. Start with one finger, and if it seems like she’s enjoying it, then you can use two fingers, and maybe even three.

8. Don’t shove those fingers in and out of her over and over again. That won’t make her orgasm. You have to bend your fingers once you’re inside, so you can find her G-spot with the tips of them. Your best bet is to use your index finger and middle finger at the same time and use a “come hither” motion until you hit the rough patch that makes her moan.

9. Despite what most men think, women have an easier time orgasming from clitoral stimulation than penetration. So if you have your heart set on fingering her, make sure you use your other hand to keep rubbing her clit.

10. If she has a vibrator, ask her to go get it for you. You’ll still have to find the right patterns to move it in, but you’ll save your fingers a lot of work.

11. If she’s a sucker for anal, then you should play with her asshole with your pinkie finger. Just make sure that you always use different fingers for different holes. Otherwise, you might end up transferring bacteria and giving her a UTI.

12. Be patient. It takes most women a while to orgasm, and if she can tell that you’re getting annoyed by how long she’s taking, then she’s going to get anxious and won’t end up orgasming at all.

13. Multitask. Instead of just sitting next to her while moving your hands, lean in and kiss her. The more places you stimulate at once, the faster she’ll cum.

14. Take your shirt off. Give her something nice to look at, so she doesn’t have to close her eyes and fantasize about fucking your brother.

15. Some women think male voices are a bigger turn-on than the male body, so talk to her. Tell her how hot she looks and how sexy her moans sound. Then ask her if she likes what you’re doing, so you don’t end up wasting time with a move she can’t stand.

16. After you make her orgasm, remove your fingers from her and stick them in your mouth to suck off the juices. That way, she’ll know how much you love her pussy.